Vengeance? — An Open Letter to a Concerned Friend

Dear Concerned Friend,

When we spoke the other day you asked me a question that I would like to try to answer here on my blog because others in my life have been asking me similar questions, and I would like to document my answer out here in public where anyone who wishes to know what it is can come and read it. If memory serves, your question was this one:

“You may want to think about what you’re really hoping to accomplish with all this. Are you trying to raise awareness? Are you hoping to educate people? Do you want vengeance?”

For the sake of others who may read this letter, I will just explain that your question was regarding my current preoccupation with the events relating to the loss of my job last May 19, 2017. To summarize it all briefly and far too simply[1], I believe that the individuals who fired me did so illegally, and ever since I have been more or less obsessed with the question of what to do about that. One thing I have tried to do about it is file charges against my former employer[2] with the so-called “Equal” Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), but that turned out to be a total waste of time because as it turns out, and in flagrant contradiction to their own self-congratulatory propaganda, the EEOC is perfectly useless to anyone with a psychiatric disability such as autism (FYI, I have Autistic Spectrum Disorder). For the sake of completion, however, I have decided to give the EEOC a third opportunity to help me, to begin with by writing a very long open letter (posted here on this blog) to one of the EEOC’s own Deputy District Directors; in particular, the boss of those who botched up their handling of my two charges against my former employer. In any case, back to the main topic…

I have to guess that you might have felt a little awkward about asking me that question, especially that particular part about whether I wanted “vengeance”. I couldn’t help noticing and subsequently over-thinking about the way your voice dropped toward a mumble when it got to that part, and how your rate of speech jumped up a notch as you raced to get the words out, like a driver might race to get through an amber traffic light.

I apologize if I’ve ever done anything to make you feel uncomfortable about asking me that or any other question. I was talking with you about this issue because I value your opinions on the matter, and I understand that if I’m to have any hope of being helped by those opinions, then you need to understand clearly just what this matter is all about. That means I need to welcome all of your questions about it, and to do my best to answer them.


You can’t help me if you don’t understand me, so I welcome all of your questions. Image Credit: Pixabay

So, please, if you truly wish to understand what I hope to accomplish with all of this, either in general or in particular as to whether I’m after vengeance, I invite you to ask these kinds of questions, whatever they are, and to feel comfortable about doing so.

To get right to that particular point:

If you are seriously worried about whether I might want vengeance, then I hope it will reassure you that my answer is “absolutely not”.  Vengeance is definitely not what I want. I think vengeance in general is a bad idea for all kinds of reasons, but in this particular case committing some trivial, self-indulgent act of vengeance would only make it much more difficult for me to accomplish my true overall objective, which is this:

Ultimately, what I really hope to accomplish with all of this — what I really want is just what I have always wanted, always sought, and never found: to belong somewhere. I want to find my niche in this world.


Wow, that’s a lot of human beings! Where do I fit in with all of those people? Image Credit: Pixabay

I have spent my entire waking life feeling more or less lost and inconveniently out-of-place, like a walrus lurching and lumbering down the middle of a highway during rush-hour; trying in myriad ways to answer the question “where do I fit in?” — and although I seem to have no problem finding good candidate answers to this question, so far every single one of them has turned out in one form or another to be “not for me”, after all. So, if you are puzzled by my behavior with respect to the events in question, I believe that if you try to see it all as an eager and hopeful attempt by me to figure out just where I fit into the human picture at large — a vigorous and enthusiastic attempt to solve my niche-problem — I expect my otherwise puzzling decisions and actions will make a lot more sense to you.

I hope you found that answer satisfying. If not, please let me know and I will try again. I want to be understood, my friend. I need to be understood. So, if you don’t understand, then please let me know, and I will try to find better ways to explain it.

In any event, thank you for asking.

[1] For the full account, I haven’t yet, but will create a special page with a list of links to the many blog posts I’ve written on the subject. For now, you may wish to begin with my recently completed 9 part open letter to one of the “E”EOC’s Deputy District Directors. Here is a link to part 1 of that series: An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 1.

[2] My former employer is a billion-dollar, global, multinational insurance company. For the time being I think it best not to reveal its identity, so I’ve been referring to it on this blog as the XYZ Insurance Company or “XYZ” for short.

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 9

My Allegedly “Inappropriate” Email Had Actually Been Approved By My Management

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 8] …Now, in order to demonstrate the difference between mere skepticism and genuine refutation — where the former is a legitimate and necessary first step toward knowledge, but by no means a sufficient one; and the latter is essentially the


Please don’t mistake skepticism for knowledge. Skepticism is just the first step toward knowledge, but the journey toward genuine knowledge requires many more steps after that. Image Credit: Pixabay

full remainder of the journey (not to mention the real work of knowledge acquisition) — as an example I will choose a proposition from Batman’s[24] bogus “position statement“, and I will refute it with solid evidence that implies that the proposition is false.

The proposition I will so refute is the following:

“On May 17, 2017, Mr. Autistickish sent an e-mail to an unknown number of recipients which he titled, ‘Humiliation is Not A Performance Enhancer (ASD Lesson #1).’”

— from pg. 4 of Batman’s bogus “position statement“.

Although it is true that on May 17 I sent the email in question, the proposition considered as a whole  and especially within its context in Batman’s bogus “position statement”, is nevertheless false in at least three ways. First, the proposition misleadingly suggests that May 17 was the first time I sent the email in question, but the May 17 dispatch was actually the second time I had sent it. Batman’s position statement makes no mention of the first time I sent the email, which actually occurred five days prior, on Friday, May 12. Also, I sent it that day to three people: my manager (Robin the Boy Wonder), my previous manager (the Huntress), and the HR manager (Hawkwoman) who had prepared the most recent (May 10) revision of my reasonable accommodations. I sent it to these three because Robin had recommended that I do so. The following is a redacted version of the email chain I have in which Hawkwoman acknowledges having received my ASD Lesson #1 on May 12, again, five days prior to my May 17 dispatch:Hawkwoman acknowledges ASD Lesson 1 redacted

Second, the proposition also states that the number of recipients was “unknown”, but the number actually was known because I had told Hawkwoman, Robin and the Huntress in that same email chain that I was planning to send it to 62 recipients. Here is the proof:

I tell Kristie Falcone about the 62 person DL redacted

Third, the proposition along with its context in Batman’s bogus “position statement” make it sound like I had sent my ASD Lesson #1 email to 62 recipients without permission from management. But this is false. I absolutely did have management permission to send that email. Here’s how:

  1. First, the May 10th reasonable accommodation document given to me by Hawkwoman explicitly encourages me “…to put written communications in succinct and draft form, review and reread for appropriateness prior to sending.” This encouragement to rely on my own judgment – i.e., the faculties of my own autistic neurology – to determine the appropriateness of my emails is explicitly listed as an expectation I was required to meet as a condition of continued employment with XYZ. This is essentially written permission from an HR manager to send any emails I wish to send to anybody in the company, as long as I personally judge them to be appropriate. By way of contrast, Hawkwoman could have encouraged me to get my boss’s approval before sending every email. She could have done that, but instead she encouraged me to rely on my own autistic faculties of judgment. But there’s more…
  2. Next, recognize that Robin, the Huntress and Hawkwoman had all received a copy of my ASD Lesson #1 email, were all told that I planned to send it to 62 colleagues, and were all given 5 days to discourage me from sending it, but none of them expressed any such discouragement prior to my sending it the second time on May 17.
  3. In fact, on the contrary, after four days had passed and I had still heard nothing back from Robin, Huntress, nor Hawkwoman about my email, I approached Robin on the morning of Tuesday, May 16 and asked him directly what he thought of my ASD Lesson #1 email. He told me that he thought it was “very well written.” He told me that it reminded him of someone he knows in his personal life, that this person has a blog, and he recommended that I too try some blogging. And when I asked him about sending these to the 62 colleagues, Robin told me that it was my “right to send it to whoever I wanted.” Let me say that again:

My manager told me that my ASD Lesson #1 email was “very well written” and that it was my “right to send it to whoever I wanted”.

So the next day, on May 17, and believing that I had my management’s approval to do so, I sent the email to all 62 colleagues, a list that included Robin, Huntress, Hawkwoman and 59 others.

So, Batman’s explicit claim that I sent the email to an “unknown” number of recipients is false. Furthermore, his implied claims that I sent it for the first time on May 17 and that I did so without management approval are also both false. Overall, the proposition is demonstrably false.

And that concludes my demonstration of the sort of effort required to actually refute a proposition, rather than to merely scowl at it. And yes, that refutation effort does begin with a skeptical scowl – I know I definitely did some serious scowling when I read that part of Batman’s bogus “position statement” – but simply scowling proves nothing.


This young woman looks pretty skeptical, but her skeptical looks accomplish little more than ask a reasonable question. If she sincerely wants a reasonable answer to that question, she will have to do the real work of refutation. Image Credit: Shutterstock

So, if you really are skeptical of the disabling nature of my autism, I say, that’s fine. Wonderful! But please don’t stop at the scowl. Please don’t mistake your otherwise legitimate doubts for genuine knowledge – for some sort of refutation or proof that I’m not actually disabled. Skeptical doubt is just the beginning. The next step is to allow your skepticism to lead you to genuine curiosity. Once you feel curious, the next step is to indulge that curiosity by asking questions, by talking to witnesses, and experts, by examining evidence, etc. And after you have made that sort of sincere, refutational effort – the kind of effort that I myself have made, and that has been made by the autism experts who are helping me to learn how to survive with my autistic abilities in a world that has been inadvertently designed to disable those abilities by the non-autistic, neurologically normal majority of human beings – I am quite confident that you will ultimately fail to refute my claim that my autism is a true disability.

And when that happens — when you see that you have failed to refute this claim after having made a truly sincere effort to do so — you will find that your otherwise legitimate skeptical doubts will weaken, and that you will eventually become as reasonably convinced as I am that such refutation is actually rather unlikely; that I am, in fact, autistic, and that having to live autistically in a world that was designed by and built for people who aren’t autistic is a true disability.

And once that has been accomplished, Mr. EEOC Deputy District Director, it is my hope that your next step will be to answer my plea for help, by conducting an honest investigation into the allegations I have made in this letter against Batman and his Justice League Gang.


Autistickish Walrus


I am the walrus — coo coo gajoob! Image Credit: Pixabay

[24] As explained in Part 2, in order to do what I can to help ensure that the guilty will be able to find impartial jury members for their trials, I have chosen to mask their identities behind the names of characters from the fictional superhero world of DC Comics.

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 8

Please Don’t Mistake Skepticism for Knowledge

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 7] …

If one knows anything useful about autism, one knows that as many ways exist to be autistic, as autistic people have, do now and will exist. Although I personally avoid endorsing the idea that autism is a “spectrum” thing – because it saliently and quite uselessly suggests that we autists can be ordered like a rainbow lineup of colored pencils

Row of colored pencils

However useful it might be, I don’t love the “spectrum” model of autism because it suggests that autistic people can be lined up from least to most autistic like colored pencils in rainbow order. That seems implausible to me. Image Credit: Pixabay

from least to most autistic – it appears that for better or worse we are stuck with this notion, for now, and in any case it does at least somewhat redeem itself by making the critical point that being autistic can mean something quite different for any two given human beings “on the spectrum”. ” One commonly used maxim that conveys this idea states, “If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism”[19].

My own preferred analogy compares being autistic to being a bird. If one had no knowledge of birds, one might be astonished to learn that despite their radically different appearances and behaviors, a penguin and a cardinal, say, actually have so very much in common that they can be rationally viewed as the same general sort of thing – they’re both birds. This surely once surprising conclusion no doubt followed from the same sort of autistically painstaking scientific scrutiny that especially in the last three hundred years has overturned so many superficially obvious but profoundly false ideas regarding the way the world actually is and works. Countless examples could be listed such as that the Sun revolves around the Earth, or that heat is a substance, or that learned behaviors are transmitted to offspring, or that heavier bodies fall more quickly than lighter ones, or that disease is caused by witchcraft, etc. All of these and many more[20] otherwise intuitively plausible ideas have been debunked by scientists and replaced by the sort of verifiably true ideas that form the modern scientific world-view.

With respect to autism, I’m guessing that before reading Part 1 of this letter, you likely believed erroneously that autism is some sort of intellectual disability. To the extent that anyone believes that particular autism stereotype[21], he or she would be at risk of erroneously concluding that an autist like me – which is to say one who clearly has no intellectual disability – must therefore have no disability at all.

But nothing could be further than the truth. I am definitely disabled. I am disabled in the same way that your own ability to see is disabled when you open your eyes under water;


Dolphins have special ocular adaptations that allow them to see clearly underwater. We humans lack these adaptations, so we are quite blind underwater, unless we wear goggles. Image Credit: Pixabay

in the same way that your own ability to write with a pencil is disabled when your hands are stiff from being out in the cold too long; in the same way that your own ability to walk is disabled when you wear ice skates. I am disabled in ways like these, not because of abilities that I lack, but because I am continuously forced to exercise the abilities I have in disabling, one-size-fits-most environments – environments that were designed by and built for neurologically normal people, which I am not.

The upshot here is that everywhere I go, whatever I happen to be doing, and whomever I happen to encounter, I always feel like I don’t belong there – like I’m at a crowded party where everyone has known everyone else since the first grade, but nobody knows me; like a fish flopping around in the bottom of a boat; like a lost walrus, lurching and heaving down the middle of a city street, questing after enough water to swim in. Wherever I happen to find myself is where I am also lost. In this way I am disabled.

But perhaps you are skeptical, and that would be fine, of course. You certainly wouldn’t be alone in your skepticism. Since receiving my ASD diagnosis in November 2016 I have met more than a few skeptical non-experts – ranging from a forgivably naïve 23-year-old family member, fresh out of college; to a professional forensic psychiatrist on staff as Senior Psychiatric Director at the XYZ Insurance Company; a man who really ought to know better, but who probably gets paid too well to pretend that he doesn’t. The latter is an impressively educated individual indeed, and has not just an MD but also a JD credential – meaning that he’s not just a “Jack” of both the psychiatric and the legal trades; he is also a master of both, or at least makes a tidy living posing as such. I’m also pretty sure he’s a member of Batman’s Justice League Gang, so I will refer to him going forward as Dr. Fate. But whatever Dr. Fate’s expertise truly is, it has nothing to do with autism. With respect to Autism Spectrum Disorder, the man is as ignorant and confused as my 23-year-old family member, fresh out of college.

Heck, even I was skeptical at first, and for the same reason – because I was ignorant and confused about autism. At that time, everything I knew about Autism Spectrum Disorder I had learned from watching two popular Hollywood portrayals of autistic people, and by reading one book by an internationally known autism research pioneer. Somehow from that limited exposure to autism I had it in my head that autistic people had no sense of humor, and they didn’t feel empathy; and because I have a great sense of humor and feel a good deal of empathy – because I don’t really fit the autism stereotypes I had innocently assimilated from my own autism-ignorant and -confused culture – I found it quite unbelievable at first that I myself might actually be autistic.

But autism is not diagnosed on the basis of such rigid stereotypes. In particular, the humor and empathy aspects are definitely nothing like diagnostic deal-breakers. What is core to at least my own ASD diagnosis[22] is what’s known as the basic “triad of impairments” – “impaired communication; impaired social skills; and a restricted and repetitive way of being-in-the-world”[23]. Those criteria I meet easily. Also, as discussed in a footnote to Part 4, co-morbid with my own idiosyncratic variety of autism, I also suffer from periodic and often protracted anxiety attacks, which in the extreme I describe as “autistic melt down”, even though during such a meltdown episode I actually retain a high degree of executive control over my overt behavior, which does not appear to be the case for many autists.

During such episodes, which always begin with my realizing that I’m trapped in some impossible no-win situation, followed instantly by an overwhelming feeling of helplessness and vulnerability, and while this anxiety does not lead to any sort of irresistible compulsion to perform any particular overt behavior – e.g., scream, cry, flap my hands, etc. – it absolutely does cause me to lose quite completely control over my own mind. I “lose my marbles”, is one way I describe it, by which I mean I become obsessively fixated on finding good solutions to one particular problem: the problem of how best to respond to the threat posed by the no-win, damned-if-I-do-or-don’t situation in which I realize that I’m trapped.

Smiling pitbull

This pit bull represents my brain’s autistic ability to obsessively fixate on a problem until it’s either solved or becomes obsolete. Image Credit: iStock by Getty

To convey figuratively what these anxiety attacks feel like for me I also sometimes use the term thought-furnace, or say that it’s like I have a pit-bull in my brain – once that brain-dog clamps its jaws around a problem, it will not let go until that problem has been solved or become obsolete.

In any case, it’s really okay, I think, to be skeptical, if indeed you are – completely understandable, at least. And I’d go so far to say that your skepticism is even healthy, provided it leads you to curiosity – an essential prerequisite to knowledge and understanding. But I think it’s far too common for folks to use their otherwise healthy skepticism as an excuse not to be curious – to shut down inquiry, and to close their minds around some cherished or more comfortable belief, and this regardless of how false that belief may be. In general, I think, one must never mistake skepticism for actual knowledge. It is not because we scowl at some proposition that we have somehow magically refuted it. Actual refutation requires a certain amount of effort, and the goal of that effort is to find at least one solid and otherwise inexplicable counter-example – a counter-example such that its most likely explanation is the falsehood of the proposition under scrutiny.

I will now demonstrate what such a refutation might look like…

Continue with Part 9

[19] Attributed to Stephen Shore. I am still trying to track down the source.

[20] For more examples, see, last accessed Jan. 25, 2018

[21] According to the CDC, nearly half (44%) of all autistic people have normal to superior intelligence. Source: Center for Disease Control and Prevention fact sheet “Data & Statistics”. Last accessed Jan. 24, 2018.

[22] Please remember that I am nothing like a true autism-expert and certainly not a trained diagnostician. I am describing here my own lay-person’s understanding of how I in particular fulfill the DSM V diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder – an understanding that could quite possibly be a significant mis-understanding. Also, it’s quite possible that other autistic people might fulfill the criteria in very different ways.

[23] Cashin A, Sci DA, Barker P, “The triad of impairment in autism revisited“, J Child Adolesc Psychiatr Nurs. 2009 Nov;22(4):189-93. Last accessed Jan. 24, 2018.

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 7

Please, Fire Wonder Woman and Batgirl Too, before They Can Hurt Anymore Autistic People!

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 6] …With regard to the EEOC Enforcement Supervisor I am calling “Wonder Woman” and the EEOC Investigator I’m calling “Batgirl”[16], again we have a situation whereby either these two are merely incompetent EEOC investigators, or else they  deliberately and illegally allied themselves with Batman and the Justice League Gang in violation of Federal Civil Rights Statute Title 18 USC Section 241. Either way I urge you and/or the FBI to do a proper investigation.

In support of these allegations I ask you to compare Batman’s own so-called “position statement” of October 24, 2017 against the recommendations offered by the EEOC on their website entitled Effective Position Statements. For example, if you compare the following guidelines to Batman’s own “position statement” — a mostly fictitious comic-book version of the events in question that Batman prepared and submitted to Batgirl in place of an actual EEOC-standard position statement — you will see that he mostly ignored them:

  • Provide any applicable practices, policies or procedures applicable to the allegations in the charge.
  • Identify any individuals other than the Charging Party who have been similarly affected by these practices, policies or procedures; describe the circumstances in which the practices, policies, or procedures have been applied.
  • Explain why individuals who were in a similar situation to the Charging Party were not similarly affected.
  • Identify official(s) who made decisions or took action relating to the matter(s) raised in the charge.
  • Be specific about date(s), action(s) and location(s) applicable to this case.
  • Provide internal investigations of the alleged incidents or grievance hearing reports.

Now, it doesn’t surprise me that Batman ignored the guidelines. Had he followed them he would have written a reasonably accurate version of what actually happened, instead of the operatically mythological version [17] that he actually wrote, thus revealing his own culpability and that of his illegal posse.

But what I do find surprising, in fact shocking and dismaying, is that Wonder Woman and Batgirl actually shared this nonsense with me — they emailed me a PDF copy of it. That should never have happened. Sharing that maliciously libelous piece of fiction with me was intensely harassing. In fact, I consider their sending it to me as the most recent act of punishment that Batman and the Justice League Gang have inflicted upon my family and me. It has provoked another protracted autistic anxiety attack that is even now interfering with my new job.


Do these two hoodie-frocked hoodlums look suspicious? So do the EEOC Enforcement Supervisor and the EEOC Investigator that only pretended to investigate my second EEOC Charge against XYZ. Someone needs to investigate! Image Credit: Shutterstock.

And why did they share this nonsense with me? Why didn’t they push back on Batman’s total disregard for the EEOC’s own standards? Why did they simply give him a pass on his obviously sham “position statement”? Well, again, I believe either they did this because they are incompetent as investigators, or because Batman somehow recruited them to his gang. And frankly, I am most inclined to believe the latter. I believe that Wonder Woman and Batgirl are now official Justice League Gang members, along with Andromeda. [18] And I believe that if you and/or the FBI conduct an honest investigation into these events, you will obtain the proof needed in order to file proper criminal charges with the US Department of Justice against all guilty parties.

Continue with Part 8

[16] As explained in Part 2, in order to do what I can to help ensure that the guilty will be able to find impartial jury members for their trials, I have chosen to mask their identities behind the names of characters from the fictional superhero world of DC Comics.

[17] My public debunking of Batman’s viciously libelous ” position statement is a work in progress. The first article in that series is What I Did Not Do To Get Fired From My Last Job.

[18] The case against Andromeda was presented in Part 6.

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 6

Please, Fire Andromeda before She Can Hurt Anymore Autistic People!

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 5] …If the EEOC ADR Mediator I’m calling “Andromeda”[11] is not actually an active member of Batman’s Justice League Gang, then at the very least she is a dangerously incompetent mediator and should be fired immediately before she harms any more autistic people, or in fact anybody at all who might depend on such competence. But to be blunt, and on the contrary, I strongly suspect Ms. Andromeda is highly competent. Furthermore, I suspect that she willfully exploited her expertise in order to aid and abet Batman and the rest of his gang in their wish to hinder my exercise of my Constitutional rights. To begin with, during my first mediation conference with XYZ of April 24, 2017,  I believe that Ms. Andromeda deliberately conspired with Batman and my former boss Huntress to set me up to be fired by XYZ less than a month following that conference. To be clear: our mediation conference took place on April 24, 2017 and I was fired by XYZ on May 19, 2017, just 25 days later.


This represents the way EEOC Mediator Andromeda tricked me into signing the first and utterly worthless EEOC mediation agreement. Image Credit: Shutterstock

How does that happen? Well, to begin with, I believe that Andromeda conspired with Batman during the conference to dispatch first my EEOC charge against XYZ by helping him to draft a counterfeit and utterly worthless “EEOC mediation agreement”, and I believe that she then tricked me into signing that agreement. With that loose end out of the way, the Justice League Gang were then free to bait and provoke me on the job[12] until I became autistically symptomatic to the point where they could then fire me with impunity at the first convenient opportunity, which presented itself just 3 and half weeks later.

Immediately following my termination in May, I filed my second charge with the EEOC against XYZ. Three months later, during our second mediation conference of August 23, 2017 Ms. Andromeda’s behavior toward me revealed a strong and hostile bias against me and a strong and sympathetic bias in favor of XYZ’s representatives — Batman and a man I will call the “Green Lantern”. The Green Lantern works as General Manager of XYZ’s Some City campus, which is where I worked before Batman’s illegal posse fired me unlawfully on May 19th. Because of his job title, I believe Mr. Green Lantern is a high ranking and powerful member of Batman’s Justice League Gang.

More specifically, during that second mediation conference, Andromeda seemed utterly convinced that I was guilty of something. She clearly believed that I had been fired for good reason, that I had deserved to lose my job, and that my charge against XYZ was somehow frivolous or a waste of everyone’s time. She tried to pressure me into some sort of a confession, repeatedly asking questions like “wasn’t your behavior inappropriate?” and “weren’t your emails unprofessional?”. When I refused to answer these questions in the affirmative, she threatened to terminate the conference and to move my case to investigation. But then when I agreed with her on that point and began to pack up my belongings in order to depart (because I could see her bias and realized that she was not really there to help me negotiate with my former employer, but rather to coerce me again into signing another worthless EEOC mediation agreement), she then attempted to persuade me to remain, thus revealing that her threats to terminate the conference were a bluff.


This picture represents Andromeda’s hostile bias against me. Image Credit: Shutterstock

She then — wholly unbeknownst to me at the time — sneaked off to call my wife and tried to turn her against me as well. Shortly after this tactic also failed, I packed up my belongings and left the conference. To be clear: it was I who ended the mediation conference — not Andromeda, nor Batman, nor the Green Lantern.

At this point, aside from what I personally witnessed, the only publicly confirmable evidence I have of Ms. Andromeda’s unlawful and collusive behavior is a copy of the worthless mediation agreement from the first conference, and an email she sent me following the second conference (sent August 24, 11:37 am with subject line “RE: Lucy’s Football”) in which she wrote “…Yet, [XYZ] is still willing to leave the offer of $25,000.00 open to you until next week, August 30th to accept, decline or provide a more reasonable offer which is below the millions of dollars”. [Emphasis added.]

In that line, the phrase “a more reasonable offer” clearly reveals that Andromeda believed that I was being somehow unreasonable in these negotiations and by implication that Batman and the Green Lantern were all being reasonable.

First of all, I never seriously proposed a settlement of “millions of dollars”. The amount I specifically mentioned was $1.7 million, which is what I had estimated (and still do) as the Actuarial Present Value of the career opportunity that Batman and the Justice League Gang stole from me and my family[13]. But I never seriously proposed that as a settlement. What I had proposed was that XYZ reinstate me to my position — to give me my job back. Getting my job back was my goal for the mediation conference, but Andromeda absolutely insisted that reinstatement was impossible. According to Andromeda, XYZ would never give me my job back because they believed that I would just keep filing more EEOC charges against the company.

After insisting that reinstatement was impossible, Andromeda then insisted that I propose a cash settlement. When I refused the idea of cash and attempted to negotiate around the idea of reinstatement, she just kept telling me that reinstatement was “off the table” and “not an option”, and she kept hounding me for a cash proposal.


This picture represents the way Andromeda kept hounding me for a cash settlement instead of helping me get my job back like I wanted. Does this dog look neutral? Image Credit: Pixabay

It was only after Andromeda’s repeated and aggressive insistence on a cash proposal that I finally and with great reluctance told her about the estimate I had worked out prior to the conference for the APV of the career opportunity that had been stolen from me. But even if I had proposed it as she implies in the above excerpt from her email to me, it was not her job to have an opinion on the reasonableness of my proposal. As the EEOC states on its “Facts About Mediation” webpage[14], “…Parties have an equal say in the process and decide settlement terms, not the mediator.” [Emphasis added.] Andromeda’s claim in the email referenced above that my proposal was not a “reasonable” one clearly indicates that she had sided against me — that she had joined forces with Batman and the Green Lantern to thwart my efforts to mediate.

This clear and hostile bias against me flatly contradicts what the EEOC advertises as mediator neutrality.[15] In particular, the EEOC advertises on its website that,

“…Mediation is a fair and efficient process to help you resolve your employment disputes and reach an agreement. A neutral mediator assists you in reaching a voluntary, negotiated agreement….”

I believe that Andromeda’s work as a mediator in both conferences was neither fair nor efficient. In fact, both of the conferences were unmitigated disasters. The damage she caused by the first conference led to my second charge. And the damage she caused in the second conference led to an investigation (which also failed, see Part 7). Even if all we’re looking at here is mere incompetence, I believe that Andromeda should be fired immediately before she can hurt anyone else. But as I stated above, I do not believe Andromeda is truly incompetent. I believe that what appears to be her shoddy work as a mediator is actually just shoddy work as a vigilante. I believe that if you and/or the FBI conduct an honest investigation into these complaints you will find the proof needed to file formal charges against Batman, Andromeda, the Green Lantern and the rest of their gang of self-deputized “Appropriate-Behavior Police”. Again, I respectfully urge you to do that investigation.

Continue with Part 7

[11] As explained in Part 2, in order to do what I can to help ensure that the guilty will be able to find impartial jury members for their trials, I have chosen to mask their identities behind the names of characters from the fictional superhero world of DC Comics.

[12] These provocations will be treated in a separate post. Once it’s published, I’ll post a link to it here.

[13] An Actuarial Present Value (APV) of a future payment (e.g. paycheck) is its value in today-dollars, as discounted by both an interest rate and the probability that the payment will actually occur. As a simple example, suppose I promise to flip a fair coin one year from today and if it comes up heads I will pay you $1050.00. Also, suppose the interest rate for the next year is 5%, compounded annually. Then because $2000 will grow to $2100 by one year from today with that interest rate, and because when I flip a coin on that day you will have a 50% chance of winning $2100 which has an expected value of $1050 (the desired amount), we say that the APV of $1050 paid one year from today is $2000. This number represents the fair price you should demand from anyone who might wish to buy this opportunity from you. Another way to say it is that $1050 payable next year under the specified conditions is worth $2000 in today-dollars.

[14] Last accessed Jan. 22, 2018.

[15] Last accessed Jan. 22, 2018

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 5

Batman And His Justice League Gang Stole My Right To Due Process

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 4] … When I refer to Batman[10] and his co-conspirators as an illegal posse, I am not using metaphor or simile. These individuals were not acting “like” vigilantes; they were a gang of vigilantes. And although I must guess that this grotesquely vindictive behavior was ultimately grounded in an otherwise understandable and forgivable ignorance and confusion with respect to Autism Spectrum Disorder, I hope you can understand why I am less concerned with why these individuals felt entitled to do what they did, and much more concerned with its ultimately destructive emotional and financial impact on the lives of my wife; our 6-year-old twins; my recently deceased mother, who finally found eternal peace last December 2 following a decades long struggle against the Parkinson’s disease that eventually transformed her into a meat statue; and my sister and my father, who also endured a good deal of sympathetic worry regarding the struggles the rest of us were dealing with.

Mr. Deputy District Director, let me be clear on this point: this gang deliberately punished me and by extension my family, and this apparently for the pseudo-crime of my showing some symptoms of autism in the workplace. I do not care in the least if these individuals did this because they were too ignorant and confused about autism to be able to distinguish between symptoms of autism, and genuine “misconduct”, or “inappropriate” or “unprofessional” behavior. I do not care in the least if these individuals sincerely believed that they were just doing their jobs and trying their best to make good decisions on behalf of their employer.


This picture is a metaphor for how my life looked and felt after Batman and his Justice League Gang punished me for showing signs of autism in the workplace. Image Credit: Pixabay

From the perspective of my family and me, their behavior and its destructive consequences were indistinguishable from that of a gang of vigilantes who in cliché vigilante-style first jumped irrationally to the conclusion that I was somehow guilty of “inappropriate” behavior (the moral equivalent of witchcraft), who probably conducted some sham “investigation” in order to accumulate the cherry picked “evidence” that would support their collective delusions of my alleged guilt; who then probably pseudo-scrutinized that “evidence” during a secret sham trial; who probably pronounced me “guilty as charged”; and who then sentenced me and by extension my family to endure such penalties as a protracted load of toxic emotional distress (my wife became physically ill from it), the eventual loss of my job and subsequent unpredictably long period of financial free-fall we endured until I found another job 5 months later, and the associated lost salary and benefits totaling roughly $40,000.00 (including a life insurance policy because we couldn’t afford the premiums).

I implore you to recognize that this kind of vigilante justice is exactly why the U.S. Constitution guarantees our right to due process.

As I stated previously, I believe that Ms. Wonder Woman, Ms. Batgirl, and Ms. Andromeda have violated Title 18 USC Section 241, and this because they allowed themselves to be recruited by Batman to his illegal posse. Unfortunately, the only thing I have to support this allegation is what I have personally witnessed as well as so-called “smoking gun” evidence, which I will present momentarily in the form of formal complaints against the three of them. But I believe that if you make an honest investigation of these complaints, you will acquire the proof needed to file charges with the Justice Department against Batman and his posse, including Ms. Andromeda, Ms. Wonder Woman, and Ms. Batgirl.

Continue with Part 6

[10] As explained in Part 2, in order to do what I can to help ensure that the guilty will be able to find impartial jury members for their trials, I have chosen to mask their identities behind the names of characters from the fictional superhero world of DC Comics.

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An Open Letter to A Certain EEOC Deputy District Director, Part 4

It Took Batman 7 Months to Write 1 Page of Text

Dear EEOC Deputy District Director,

[Continued from Part 3] …I believe that sometime prior to May 19, 2017, and possibly as early as August, 2016, the man I’m calling “Batman”, acting unlawfully with respect to Title 18 U.S. Code § 241., abused his position as attorney representing my former employer “XYZ”[8] in order to organize an extra-judicial posse of my former colleagues – which is to say a gang of vigilantes — and together this posse eventually plotted to “injure, oppress, threaten, or intimidate” me in my “free exercise or enjoyment” of at least two legal rights guaranteed to all of us by the United States Constitution. In particular, this posse has worked to block my right to protection under Title I of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), and also my right to due process under the Law.

Regarding my exercise of the ADA – Batman took 7 months to write one page of text.

I think the single most damning piece of evidence that I have of the truth of my allegations is the easily (for you and/or the FBI) confirmable fact that despite my persistent and enthusiastic attempts to accelerate the process, Batman and his posse took 7 months to write a single page of text required to document the reasonable accommodations that I had requested from XYZ in October, 2016 and which I require for my psychiatric disability[9]. To clarify, I made my original request for these accommodations in October, 2016, and Batman’s posse finally gave me the 3rd revision of this single page of text 7 months later in May.


This picture represents the fact that it took Batman and his Justice League Gang 7 months to write just 1 page of text. Image Credit: Pixabay

Most importantly, and as documented in countless emails that should still be on XYZ’s email servers, during that time I struggled continually to persuade these people to move faster. Had I any semblance of control over the situation, they could have completed this task in less than a month. The fact that it took them 7 months was entirely their own doing. To my view, this clearly demonstrates that these people were actively attempting to block my exercise of my rights as an autistic person to the protections offered by Title I of the ADA.

I respectfully implore you to obtain from XYZ the complete record of my attempts to attain reasonable accommodation. If you can obtain that complete record (all the emails exchanged), I’m sure you will come to agree that Batman and his posse have violated Title 18 U.S. Code § 241.

Here is a link to the 1 page of text that took Batman and his Justice League Gang 7 months to write: Reasonable Accommodations. Note that the date on the document is May 10, 2017. I was fired just 9 days later for an alleged violation of XYZ’s “Code of Conduct”.

Here is a link to the form I originally filled out in October 2016 to request reasonable accommodation for my disability: Original Request for Reasonable Accommodation.

Continue with Part 5

[8] As explained in Part 2, I’m using pseudonyms, mostly drawn from the fictional world of DC Comics, in order to help protect the guilty’s chances of receiving a fair trial. For example, “Batman” is the attorney who represented my former employer. As an exception to the DC Comics naming scheme, I’m using “XYZ” or the “XYZ Insurance Company” to represent my former employer

[9] By way of context for these events, in November 2016, roughly a month after I first requested my reasonable accommodations, I was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Roughly a month prior to that request, in September 2016, and in direct response to a job-related disagreement I’d been having with a colleague, and which had been dragging on for many weeks by that point, I began to manifest a life-long pattern of symptoms that are comorbid with my autism and which are probably best described as a form of anxiety attack. These kinds of anxiety attacks are overwhelming for me. In their more extreme form they correspond closely, I believe, to what is known in the autistic community as “autistic melt down”. During these attacks, while I do retain a great deal of control over my own overt behavior (many autists seem not to share this capability during meltdown episodes) and can appear fairly calm when they happen, I have almost no control over my own attention, which becomes very intensely and stubbornly focused on the task of resolving the particular concern that provoked the anxiety in the first place.

By the way, I am actually having one of these attacks as I write these very words. In fact, letters such as this one are the most visible way that my autistic anxiety manifests. In this case, the “concern” on which my attention is autistically focused so stubbornly is the possibility that I actually might get fired from my new job now because I’m too obsessed about how I got fired from my previous job.

In any case, in September 2016, and in response to a work-related disagreement with a colleague, I began to have one of these anxiety attacks, which over the years have wrought a great deal of havoc in my life in general, but especially in my attempts to stay gainfully employed. Recognizing from lots of difficult experience with these sorts of anxiety attacks  that I was embarking on a downward spiral that was doomed to end in my leaving my job for one reason or another, and following conversations that I’d had about it with my sister and my wife, I decided to seek medical attention for this issue, which my family and I had amateurishly diagnosed as some form of Bipolar Disorder (subsequently refuted and replaced by Autism Spectrum Disorder in November, as previously explained), and to request reasonable accommodation from my employer for my job. Again, I made my initial request to XYZ for reasonable accommodation in October, 2016, and it then took Batman and his posse 7 months to grant my request, and even then the accommodations still needed to be revised, although they illegally fired me before that could happen.