[Note: This post is the continuation of Hate Mail from that Disability Claims Investigator, Part 2.]
DCI: You’re a complete fraud. It’s my opinion whether you like it or not.
Me: Of course you have that opinion. You’re paid quite well to form opinions just like it. As explained in Part 2, your belief that I’m only pretending to have a disability is a direct consequence of your own Disability Blindness, which is to say your inability to see my disability because you lack the training you would need in order to recognize my symptoms (e.g. obsessions, lack of boundaries, etc.) as textbook manifestations of an Autism Spectrum Disorder.
In your case, however, what complicates matters is that your Disability Blindness makes you a profitable asset for your employer, a company that sells Disability Insurance, a product which simply wouldn’t be profitable if your employer didn’t employ disability-blind people such as yourself to analyze and investigate Disability Insurance claims. To use your own professional jargon, you and your employer accrue powerful “secondary gains” from this impairment of yours, which in turn makes it important for you to reject the very training that might correct it. The reason you believe erroneously that I’m a fraud is because if you didn’t you’d have to find yourself a new line of work.
DCI: Not only are you a complete and utter fraud, you have a great deal of hate and disrespect for people. Its dangerous and I dont think you’re safe to be around.
Me: I have already addressed these concerns, above and in part 2.
DCI: Therefore I will reiterate what I said. Keep at least 5 miles distance from my residence, my family and my place of work.
Me: That shouldn’t be a problem as I live five-hundred miles away from you, your family, etc. If that doesn’t reassure your irrational anxieties, then probably nothing will.
DCI: You’ve done a fantastic job of researching autism spectrum disorder and I applaud your thorough knowledge of the disorder. You’ve unsuccessfully used your knowledge to make false claims against your former employer. You unsuccessfully applied for disability benefits.
Me: Although I have read a few books and articles about Autism Spectrum Disorder, most of my expertise comes from having lived more than 5 decades with my own unique manifestation of autism, and this without knowing that I was autistic.
Also, the claims that I’ve made against my employer are essentially true, although I have used strong figurative language to make them, especially on this blog. For example, I have described as a form of gang rape the Civil Rights crime that was perpetrated against my person by an estimated dozen MetLife employees and others working in collusion. Although I was not literally raped or even touched by anybody, the psychological impact on me of this crime was traumatic, and my family and I are still struggling to cope with the repercussions.
DCI: No I’m not a robot, ignorant or naive.
Me: I think your harsh opinions of me are naive and grounded in your ignorance of Autism Spectrum Disorder. I think your behavior is robotic in the sense of unreflective — you haven’t really thought through the consequences of your actions. You seem to have been acting on some sort of robotic auto-pilot. I’m guessing you actually agree with me on this point, given that you’ve asked me to delete your various comments from my blog and also to keep private the contents of our emails and text messages. To me that means you regret having made your accusations against me.
But I’m actually quite happy that you made these accusations, and I don’t think your regrets are rationally grounded. You have accidentally done a great thing here, my friend — not the thing you thought you wanted to do, but you only wanted to do that because you sincerely and erroneously believed me to be a dangerous criminal. Once you come to understand me better you will be glad you committed this fortuitous gaffe.
DCI: Apparently I’m not the only person who thinks your claims of disability are bogus. Otherwise your claim would still be approved.
Me: I agree that your harsh and ignorant opinions of me are likely shared by many other disability-blind human beings, in particular your own professional colleagues. Furthermore, I seriously doubt that I’m the only disabled person you all punish with your harsh and ignorant opinions.
In fact, what I see in these opinions of yours is evidence of a kind of class conflict between, on one side, the class of people who are disability blind like you are, and on the other side the class of people like me who have disabilities that cannot be seen by people in your class, or at least not until proper training has corrected your Disability Blindness.
By the way, you’re clearly missing some key facts. In the months prior to my illegal termination from MetLife in May 2017, I took two doctor recommended FMLA medical leaves and submitted two Short-term Disability Claims to cover my salary during those leaves. Both disability claims were initially rejected, and only the first claim was finally approved on appeal. The second claim was rejected on appeal.
DCI: You asked for my advice without giving full context of your situation with your employer. Had I known in advance I would have blocked your calls.
Me: You feel I betrayed you because you don’t remember me telling you about the EEOC claim I had made on January 4, 2017, several weeks prior to our own original conversation about my appeal for my second disability claim. To be honest, I also don’t remember telling you about the EEOC claim, but I don’t remember not telling you either. It’s entirely possible that I told you and that you simply forgot that I told you. Either way, my complaint with the EEOC was about the frustrating resistance MetLife had been showing since the previous October when I first requested reasonable accommodation for my disability. Although clearly related through the fact of my disability, the problem I was having obtaining reasonable accommodation and the rejection of my Short-term Disability claim were really two separate issues. If you are right that I didn’t tell you about the EEOC complaint it’s because I thought it wasn’t relevant. And if I did tell you and you forgot, you probably forgot because you thought it wasn’t relevant too.
I’m sorry you feel betrayed, but if I did withhold information from you as you claim, I did so because I didn’t realize its relevance. Perhaps the next time somebody asks you for information about how disability claims are processed, you might consider responding with something like, “I’m sorry you’re having difficulties, but for ethical reasons I cannot discuss my work with anyone I don’t work with directly.”
To be continued…
Note: When I publish part 4 I will post a link to it here.